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It has been a year since Ira died

It's hard to believe it has been a year since Ira Yarmolenko died. I didn't know about it until the next day when I got a phone call from similarsmell . He said police had found her body. I couldn't believe it. I thought about all the times she had walked home from the coffeeshop by herself at night, and how worried it made me. But then he told me this happened during the day. It wouldn't have made any difference if she had been more cautious.

A few days earlier, Human Resources had made some strange mistake which led to me being listed as deceased in their system. I had gone to correct it, and was again alive. It was pretty funny at the time. After I'd heard about Ira, I'd said to somebody "Wouldn't it be nice if they could bring Ira back to life the way they did me?".

There is still a small memorial to her on a section of the counter at the coffeeshop. There's a picture of her and a scrapbook for people to sign and write memories in. Sometimes I'll look at the picture and say "Hi Ira." It's irrational, but comforting somehow. Yesterday there was also a card to her family for people to sign and some white roses somebody brought by to put on her grave. Those are making their way up to Chapel Hill today.

Here's a copy of the picture they have at the coffee shop:

She was so beautiful. And so sweet.